Why we need better husbands in our societies.

Saeed kamalu Bako

Family as an agent of socialization has helped a lot in nurturing better wives for there Husbands but has also failed mostly in creating better husbands in our society.

Family attached too much importance in bringing up better wife than a Husband. You will here things like " gwara ki koya girki Dan gidan wani zaki" , " haka zakiyi in kinje gidan mutane ko" , " kefa uwar wasu ce nan bada dadewa ba" the parents must especially mother try by all means to teach her on how to be good , forgetting that she has a boy that will one day equally turn to be a husband. Why won't she then taught him how he can handle someone's daughter?

 Culture make it to be the responsibility of the father, what then do you expect from someone who was not taught on how to do it to teach someone how to do it? 

Why should I talk on this ? Through out the week i heard cases that has to do with domestic violence but most of them were the fault of the Husbands . Husbands of today find it very difficult to control their houses, most especially when the women have 3 or more children , that love that was shown to her will eventually start to fade away, and then all kinds of problems will surfaced. 

Culture and tradition has made us think of our wives as our house slaves. anything domestic is for women. Could you imagine , when there is a boy in the house, his elder sister will be asked to serve him food (I mean take it to his room) and when he is done he will leave the plate in the room , the mom will then say " wacce, jeki ki dauko kwanon nan ki wanke ". His younger sisters will be asked to sweep and mop his room for him and even wash his clothes.

 All those are to train them on how to do all those things to their Husband when they married , let them be  hardworking wives to keep their Husbands happy. Have you ever heard when parents ask a boy to sweep his elder sister's room? Wash her plates when she ate or perhaps always take food to her room when it is ready? 

Parents, you have a long way to go. We also need good husbands in our society in as much as we need the good wives.